Addiction RecoveryOvercoming pornography and other sexual addictions is normally not an immediate event, but more of a process in gaining control over one’s body and mind.

First, the offensive behavior needs to stop. That is, the viewing of pornography needs to be halted at whatever cost. It can’t continue of the process will be halted.

Second, one must figure out the root of their problem. The question needs to be asked, “Why am I doing this?” The reason for this is not only to determine the reason why the viewing of pornography ever started but more importantly, how to escape the “need ” of viewing pornography and replace the action with something positive and uplifting.

Third, their needs to be some sort of support in helping to break this self-destroying addiction. There are three levels of support that we suggest: Accountability Partners, Peer Groups, and Professional counseling.

I have never worked with a client that has overcome this specific addiction on their own. There have been many that have tried, but they have all failed. This is an addiction that requires help from another person. When a temptation arises, their needs to be someone to know about it. Someone who can live you strength in that moment of need.

Lastly, one needs to recognize the seriousness of this addiction and needs to try to restore all relationships that the addiction has destroyed. If married, the spouse needs an extremely large apology, and thank you. Why? Because they have been more hurt than the offender could even imagine.

As I always say, this addiction is possible to overcome, but it is one of the worst. It is worse than any physical drug addiction that I have ever dealt with. Hang in their and the addiction can be beat. The following success stories might help in the recovery process.


Gambling Recovery Roadblocks

Addiction RecoveryRoadblocks to recovery in problem gambling:

  • “I know I should quit, but I love gambling.”
  • “Lack of money is the real problem, not my gambling.”
  • “I can learn how to manage my gambling without stopping entirely.”
  • “I’m only in treatment to appease my family or employer.”
  • “I can’t imagine life without gambling.”
  • “Quitting gambling is impossible.”

Gambling Addiction Myths and Facts

Addiction RecoveryMyths & Facts about Gambling Addiction and Problem Gambling

MYTH: You have to gamble everyday to be a problem gambler.
FACT: A problem gambler may gamble frequently or infrequently. Gambling is a problem if it causes problems.

MYTH: Problem gambling is not really a problem if the gambler can afford it.
FACT: Problems caused by excessive gambling are not just financial. Too much time spent on gambling can lead to relationship breakdown and loss of important friendships.

MYTH: Partners of problem gamblers often drive problem gamblers to gamble.
FACT: Problem gamblers often rationalize their behavior. Blaming others is one way to avoid taking responsibility for their actions, including what is needed to overcome the problem.

MYTH: If a problem gambler builds up a debt, you should help them take care of it.
FACT: Quick fix solutions may appear to be the right thing to do. However, bailing the gambler out of debt may actually make matters worse by enabling gambling problems to continue.

Adapted from: Chris Lobsinger’s Problem Gambling

Addiction Recovery Is Possible

Throughout my professional career, I have visited and counseled with many people about their addictions and what takes place in their lives. There is a definite control that any addiction has on the human body. The way I have heard it said, is that once an addict, always an addict. However, I am here to change that notion. I feel that any addiction is just like bad habit, but one that is very serious and life threatening, both physically and emotionally.

It has been said, that it takes 21 days to form a habit and only 3 days to break a habit. I have seen this be the case with many addictions, yet some can be more powerful than others. One must first believe in themselves. If that can take place, then a complete recovery s possible. If that doens’t take place, there is ni hope.

I worked a few years back with a gentleman that had an alcohol addiction. He had struggled for years with this addiction, and it destroyed every relationship that he had in his life. He was single, over 50 and always down in the dumps.

Just like any bad habit though, he was able to beat it and have a happy/healthy lifestyle. He had a spiritual experience that he said changed him. Along with a few materials that I had given him he was able to beat his addiction. It was such a joy to see him be able to talk about his addiction recovery. He now loves spending time with his son and watching movies. Needless to say, the man is no longer an addict, but a victor.